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Who will save our “Little Bosses”?

“The elephant is out in the room” and nobody is noticing. Two young lives have been snuffed out in quick succession; one to the “Blue Whale” and one to the “NEET Fiasco”. As the blame game goes on, two culprits have been away from centre stage – we (the parents) and our own “Education System”.

Let me gather my arsenal and point out to the latter, “Endearing Education System”. What killed the 17 year old medical aspirant from Ariyalur? Why did this child, who studied diligently to score 1176 / 1200 in State Board succumb to a paltry 86 in the NEET Exam?  Would you go by the logic that the CBSE Questions are 180 degrees apart from the State Board? How could one reach Chennai from Trichy if one were to travel from Trichy to Coimbatore? How could one crack the NEET when grappling with the ‘archaic’ State Board System?

Early this year, i had organised a seminar at a suburban school. One of the speakers was a most coveted Biology teacher who gave his formula for success in the Biology exam. He mentioned that just studying chapter 3, 4 and 5 would fetch 190 marks out of 200. Byhearting chapters 3 and 4 would fetch 150 marks out of 200 and by just studying chapter 3, one could attain 80. If this is how we are going to churn out doctors, then God save the patients.

I have been teaching for 19 years and struggle to make Engineers understand decimals and fractions. Geometry and Algebra is beyond their comprehension. Reading and writing, their pet aversion and History and Geography, a mandatory burden to be endeared to clear the TNPSC and Bank exams. When are we going to address this fundamental flaw and stop churning out armies of students bereft of concepts and applications? Why do these 1180s consistently get arrears in their Engineering? Isn’t it high time somebody figured it out? Would just window dressing the syllabus be a long term remedy? Don’t we need a systemic shift in mindset and ask the obvious question – what is the need for these myriad of exorbitantly priced Coaching Institutes? Why our BEd and TET trained erudite teachers are woefully inadequate in transforming 1176 into high NEET scores?

Let’s now turn our attention to the former “the Blue Whale episode”. Whereas the most innocuous of professions mandates a certification, the most responsible profession in this planet; Parenting is turned a blind eye towards. A child, who is not allowed to touch Nicotine or Alcohol even with a barge pole, has the most addictive tool in the planet 24 x 7. The ubiquitous ‘Cellphone’, an instrument which demands constant attention and who’s ‘friending or unfriending’ status can determine the course of one’s life and build or destroy ones self-esteem. Isn’t it time, the torch bearers of the family stopped analyzing characters living under one roof in reality shows and started noticing the “Little Boss” under their roof? Isn’t it time, the “Little Bosses” realized that ‘friending’ is a physical reality – hugs still exist in this world, they are entities who would be heard, dinner times are meant to be together and Engineering and Medicine are not the be all and end all of life. Childhood is meant to be lived and not an examination to be passed.

Many more versions of ‘Blue Whales’ and ‘NEETs’ will come and go but the “Elephant in the room” needs to be woken up and addressed. Is anybody listening?

By Sivakumar

sivakumar1814@yahoo.com

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FOLLOWING YOUR BLISS 

​🎈 Author Joseph Campbell often talked about ‘following your bliss’. There is this bus driver in Chicago who does just that. He sings while he drives. That’s right… sings! And he doesn’t sing 


softly to himself either. He sings so loudly that the whole bus can hear! All day long he drives and sings.

He was once interviewed on Chicago television. He said that he is not actually a bus driver. “I’m a professional singer,” he asserted. “I only drive the bus to get a captive audience every single day.”

His “bliss” is not driving a bus, though that may be a source of enjoyment for some people. His bliss is singing. And the supervisors at the Chicago Transit Authority are perfectly happy with the whole arrangement.  You see, people queue up to ride his bus. They even let other buses pass by so that they can ride with the “singing bus driver.” They just love it!

Here is a man who believes he knows exactly why he is here on earth. For him, it is to make people happy. And the more he sings, the more people he makes happy! He has found  a  way  to  align   his  purpose  in  living  with  his occupation. By following his bliss, he is actually living the kind of life he believes he was meant to live.

Not everybody can identify a purpose in life. But when you do, and when you pursue it, you will be living the kind of life you feel you were meant to live. And what’s more, you will be happy.

Have a happy day🎈

“USA Unplugged” – story of Ganesh

First of all, I would like to thank my family, which includes all the members of the TRICHY PLUS Institute, for being the main reason in creating who I am right now. Even though, it’s just the beginning and the greatness is yet to come.

A little bit about me: I was born and brought up in one of the “cleanest city” – Trichy. Being the only son to my parents, I was actually surprised that they had let me study abroad, since it is natural for them to be over-protective. I had done my schooling in Seventh-day Adventist Matriculation and that had aided me a good amount of language skills. I finished my under graduation in J.J. Engineering College, and Yes! There exists a college named like that. A place where I only had fun for four years .

I don’t believe in accidents. I’ve always said that. I’d found this life changing institution, TRICHY PLUS, in a way that appears as an accident. I was looking for something else from the call center and had accidentally gotten information about TRICHY PLUS and their results. I don’t know why, but I gave it a shot. I called them up and that had changed the course of my life to a greater degree. I wish there was some supernatural power that I could thank now for the choice I had made then. Joining TRICHY PLUS exposed me to the fact that studying abroad exists for normal people and it is not a big deal, as it is generally made out to be. Seeing people going abroad, getting into a good position, created interest in me to pursue Education Abroad. I am going to be brutally honest with you guys, if I were to tell you that I am pursuing Education Abroad only out of my passion, then it isn’t entirely true and it most definitely won’t be motivating for a lot of us. I am doing this with a ‘bit’ of passion for Mechanical Engineering, more for having a fun filled experience in United States and also with the idea of settling here . Wait…Did I mention fun? Oh yeah..I went there seeking a lot of fun.

There is Yin in Yang & Yang in Yin. There’s duality everywhere. We all are busy focusing on someone else’s fault, pointing the mistakes of the politicians and being busy doing so. We forget to find goodness and inspiration from the regular Joe who is with us. My inspirations are endless as long as I meet everyone who struggles and continues to do so, to be able to reach where they want to go. I changed my behavior to find good qualities in others. So it’s easy for me to find inspiration from everyone around me. I am very finicky about selecting my inspiration, though! Not choosy about a person, but picky in finding the right quality I need from that person.

Right now, at this stage of my life, I am doing research in Electronic Packaging, and it’s related to the field of Mechanical Engineering, at “University of Texas at Arlington”. After this, advertising me to companies to find a job is going to be my challenge. I live in the US (Arlington, Texas) for now, and I find a lot of opportunities around myself, from exposure to people of different ethnic backgrounds and to knowledge of different kinds. The best thing about doing your higher studies in a foreign country is that the practical knowledge is cutting edge. So if you have the ambition of pursuing higher studies abroad, then have no second thought about it.

When we think of our past and try to pick out important moments in our lives, we pick the moments we enjoy the most and the ones that taught us important lessons. As I am living in a priority search to find the best way to enjoy this only life to its fullest, the main thing I learned is to “Live in this moment and FIND the beauty in it”. Trust me; there can always be a beauty even amidst the worse. So live your life to its fullest and “Let the force be with you”.

Ganesh Subramanian – contact at in.wentor@yahoo.com

LIFE IS EMPTY & MEANINGLESS – a tribute….a perspective by Savitri

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In Mahabharatha, one day during their exile, the Pandavas go near a lake to quench their thirst. The caretaker of the lake, a Yaksha asks them not to drink water until they answer all his questions. The four brothers – Nakula, Sahadeva, Arjuna & Bheema drink the water without bothering about the Yaksha and fall dead. Finally the eldest of them – Yudhistra answers the questions and satisfies the Yaksha, who is actually Lord Yama in disguise. One of the questions is:
Yaksha: What is the greatest wonder of this world?
Yudhistra: The fact that people think that they are permanent in this world, though everyday they see several people dying with their own eyes. Could there be a greater wonder than this?
Last week, this time he was with us. He was speaking to his family members, with lot of difficulty though. Today he is not there. Yes, i am talking about my father-in-law, whose demise has left a deep impact on me. This was the first time; i have been near a close family member who was breathing his last. My father-in-law, Dr.V.A.Sathgurunath had everything a person would need to lead a happy and a satisfied life. A devoted spouse, well settled children, brilliant grand-children, a busy schedule, a business to look forward to, loving employees and a wonderful life. He used to proudly state, “I don’t have ABCD – Arthritis, Blood Pressure, Cholesterol & Diabetes.”
Dr.V.A.S, as he was fondly called by all, also had an envious educational & professional background. He was an IIT – Kharagpur topper, was in charge of the inception of SSTP – BHEL as a Senior DGM, Trichy and President of Jindal Steel Plant. Dr.V.A.S, at the age of 65+years, achieved his Doctorate in Naturopathy.

Then what went wrong? His death was the final battle in his long war with Lung disease. According to the medical experts, this disease was a result of being exposed to the pollution in the steel factory for many years, where he had spent more than half of his lifetime. And gone was the person known to be a disciplinarian and a perfectionist all his life.
It did take me a while to come out of this distress, especially looking at my mother-in-law, whose life had revolved around him. After spending 52 years with him, she looked like a fish out of water to me. Death is the inevitable and unavoidable conclusion to life. But our mind does not accept it easily, especially when the person close to us is ‘no more’. It’s just a reminder of however carefully we plan our future, we still have only limited amount of time in which to live to our fullest.
Recently, i was reading about the cultural aspects of death & dying. While death is a universal phenomenon, the methods of expressing grief are culturally bound. All cultures have developed ways to cope with death in a respectful manner. In many cultures for example people wear black as a sign of mourning. In China, white is the colour of death. Christians & Muslims, both believe death is a transition to a more glorious place. They believe in the sovereignty of God. Buddhists believe that the living co-exist with the dead. In some cultures, worship of dead is important and it includes making offerings of food, money, clothing & blessings.
It was surprising to note that in some cultures organ donation is not permitted. Hinduism speaks on the transition of soul to a new life (similar to Buddhism). A person is said to be born again as a result of his past and the accumulation of his positive & negative actions. In some cultures, showing grief, including wailing, is expected of mourners because the more torment displayed and the more people crying, the more the person was loved. In Japan, it is extremely important not to show one’s grief. They believe, death is a time of liberation and not sorrow.
Each person reacts differently to death. Some are consumed by grief and agony; others take a moment to reflect on life. Some even laugh at it.
What puts me off is that for some people death is a business opportunity. For the first time I was exposed to death being an industry by itself, in our country especially. For so many people, it is a source of income. And for the bereaved family, it is a moment of confusion and sorrow, which is exploited by many of in our society.
Though difficult to ask, there are some crucial questions that need to be a part of the conversations among the family members of the ailing person. What are our cultural rituals, the role of every family member, who speaks to the doctor and the final arrangements?
Not to forget the people who stand by us during this difficult period. The friends and the near and dear ones who are with us and supporting us. That’s when one realizes the number of people who are with us. Can we call them our ‘true friends’?
Finally, I would like to share a beautiful thought shared by one of my friends recently, which truly made sense.
A man died… When he realized it, he saw God coming closer with a suitcase in his hand. Dialogue between God and Dead Man:
God: Alright son, it’s time to go
Man: So soon? I had a lot of plans…
God: I am sorry but, it’s time to go
Man: What do you have in that suitcase?
God: Your belongings
Man: My belongings? You mean my things… Clothes… money…
God: Those things were never yours, they belong to the Earth
Man: Is it my memories?
God: No. They belong to Time
Man: Is it my talent?
God: No. They belong to Circumstance
Man: Is it my friends and family?
God: No son. They belong to the Path you travelled
Man: Is it my wife and children?
God: No. they belong to your Heart
Man: Then it must be my body
God: No No… It belongs to Dust
Man: Then surely it must be my Soul!
God: You are sadly mistaken son. Your Soul belongs to me.
Man with tears in his eyes and full of fear took the suitcase from the God’s hand and opened it… Empty…
With heartbroken and tears down his cheek he asks God…..
Man: I never owned anything?
God: That’s Right. You never owned anything.
Man: Then? What was mine?
God: your MOMENTS. Every moment you lived was yours. Do Good in every moment, Think Good in every moment, Thank God for every moment
Life is just a Moment. Live it… Love it… Enjoy it……
That’s why I stated “LIFE IS EMPTY & MEANINGLESS”

By Savitri